Archive | August, 2014

Religious divide

31 Aug

I can now say I completely understand why other lgbt people have abandoned with the faith tradition they grew up in/ apart of, switched churches, converted to an entirely different religion, or thrown religion out completely.

My faith tradition I was raised in states I have an attraction to the same sex that is unnatural and disordered. If I were to becoming a practicing member again I would have to end my relationship, be celibate,  give up on having biological children entirely AND adoption as well..implicitly I would probably have to stay out of any type of pro lgbt activism and ultimately it would be preferred I kept my ssa to my self.
My straight counterparts do not even have to contemplate denying who they or question this theology because they “fit” just don’t understand.
I have to accept “progressive” churches as being my future, or to walk away…

Two thoughts: isn’t it kind of weird how simply identifying as a member of the

lgbt community is associated in christian circles with being a home wrecker or destroyer of the family? Like being gay suddenly makes you unapproachable because you will ruin their perfection. . 
And then if the lgbt person doesn’t want to be around family members that preach their bigotry on race, gender, homosexuality; your seen as the problem….but it’s socially/morally acceptable to shun the lgbt person? Or to ignore parts of their life that are “immoral”
(((And yes I have been reading a lot of conservative/traditional/ christian blogs….One gem was from a parent whose sibling is gay so she and her husband make sure their kids are never alone with their gay uncle AND one of them is within a few feet at all times, while another asserted their kids would never know this family member is gay and their partner would always be labeled as a friend))))

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Siblings and frustration

27 Aug

I can be a very very pushy albeit bitchy individual,  ESPECIALLY when I see someone I love struggle with life.
Sometimes I feel like my family views this as hostile and unnecessary but here me out (after all this is my blog)
My younger sibling he is definitely struggling right now. I have made it clear in the past and present I can and will help him with figuring out his life and making sure he gets where he wants to be.
When he was transitioning from high school to college he gave all these “reasons” to justify going to CC and I was the only who wasn’t buying it. CC can be a great start for people who are unsure or can’t financially afford the hit of a private or state university.
However my brother used CC as a way to not leave home, to avoid people, and to not actually transition from being a high school student to a more independent university student.
Now he is 21 and has transfered from one cc to the next. He was supposed to start university this week…One that was in a downtown and 30 minutes away…
Today I find out…he’s not even going there anymore.
After months of convincing my family that’s where he wanted to be, getting in, and me and K taking
him to orientation. ..He just opted out.
And he won’t even talk about it…
I can tell both of my parents would really like it for him to move out and on but when it comes down to it they will not push.
He does not help around the house, do chores, have a job,  and is now not even going to school. This is the guy that every few months has a new extremely lofty goal.  His newest one being moving to a vague location in California and going to an unnamed university. ..alone. When only a few months ago he had an emotional breakdown. -AN oddity and rarity- for him, because he didn’t want to leave home or my disabled aunt.
To be noted, he has aspergers but refuses to acknowledge it.

I’m the only one who seems concerned….

Anyways, I’m excited to be back in school even part time for this fall and to be actually ON TRACK for graduating.

I’m taking my research anthropology class Of WHICH I get to pick my topic. My advisor/professor/Canadian comedian (seriously she had the entirity of the class laughing/engaged when she was talking and it was syllabus day…) is a unique opportunity because she didn’t get to pick her own topic till she was getting her phd.
I’ve always thought I would automatically being going towards cultural ant and now I’m even looking at exploring bioarchaeology as an option.

Ending note I still miss the UK and museum research.

End rant.

Cat babies

8 Aug

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It seemed about time to post a cute picture of one of my cat babies. And yes she is cuddling a fox.
She also has this habit where every morning when she sees or hears that I’m awake she hops on the bed, announces her presence by chirping, then waits for me to signal to come over so she can give me head butt and say good morning.

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This is just a funny one of cat b.

8 Aug

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It seemed about time to post a cute picture of one of my cat babies. And yes she is cuddling a fox.
She also has this habit where every morning when she sees or hears that I’m awake she hops on the bed, announces her presence by chirping, then waits for me to signal to come over so she can give me head butt and say good morning.

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This is just a funny one of cat b.